DO NOT take anything personally.
If you do, you risk becoming what they say you are, or what they make you feel like or worse; fear you are. Correct their views or actions in a calm way if you can, but never be upset with their response. If you take their opinions or actions to heart, they have already changed you in the direction of what they believe you are or wish you were. For better or worse.
Don’t be what people tell you that you are. Be what you are. Or change, if you no longer want to be what you have become.