Saying “this is the right thing to do” and “I love you” while choosing to harm somebody, is to tell them that choosing to hurt them is loving and right.

They will only learn to accept pain as love, and seek abusers in their lives.

If you have to hurt people, because you are unable to do what you have to do in a way not harming them, at least don’t pretend it is loving or right, as that adds insult to injury..