When we notice a trait in somebody, it is safe to assume that the trait is our own, as we couldn’t have noticed the trait if we didn’t have it ourselves on some level.
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February 5, 2016 at 11:59 PM
hmmm. I thought about this for some time. as it is an interesting question. I am going to say no, we do not necessarily have to have the trait to recognize it. but then again, if it is a bad trait, do we have that trait and we are blatantly denying it because we don’t want to believe we have this trait. Provoking question.
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February 6, 2016 at 12:56 AM
I had the same reaction when my friend suggested this some days ago, but I came to the conclusion she could be right. At least right enough for me to pay attention to my thoughts of others from now on.
It doesn’t mean that the person we judge (positively or negatively) doesn’t have a specific trait, too, but we must be holding the trait somewhat ourselves, as well, or we couldn’t have judged. Also, why are we even judging traits.
I guess there is a difference between judging a trait and judging actions of a person. When we judge a trait, we more often than not project somehow, I think. When we judge an action it is somewhat different. Say we think of somebody as “evil” based on something they did. In such a situation we probably would be better off not judging the personal traits of the person (“evil person”) we don’t like the actions of, but just decide to avoid the person (I don’t want to be around a person making me feel this uncomfortable) if he/she is too much.
Thank you for your comment! ❤
February 6, 2016 at 2:59 PM
No worries at all. It is something interesting to think about and observe further. I will be looking at my reactions more to things like this.
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